We are trained by the world around us to have fucked up ideas about our bodies; iron unfucks them.
We are supposed to be as thin as possible, as small as possible, perhaps until we disappear; iron teaches us to take up space.
We are taught that the only good direction for the scale to go is down, and to agonize ritualistically when it goes up. Iron teaches us the power of gaining weight for strength and gives us another weight to care about – the weight we are lifting.
We are taught to eat small amounts daintily and treat food as sin and pleasure. Iron teaches us to eat heartily, to see food as fuel for life, and to seek out nutritious food rather than avoiding sinful food.
We are taught to think of our bodies as decorative, an object to be looked at; iron teaches us to think of our bodies as functional, our own active selves, not passive objects for another’s regard.
Whole industries exist to profit by removing from us our confidence and selling it back as external objects. Iron gives us confidence from within through progressive training and measurable achievements.
We are taught to be gentle and hide our strength or even to cultivate charming physical weakness until we start to believe our bodies are weak. Iron teaches us how strong we can be.
EVEN IF YOU DON’T LIKE THRIFT SHOP LISTEN TO THIS SHIT!
seriously guys, listen to this
this sounds like the background music you’d hear in a movie as the camera leads you around a bustling marketplace in the 17- or 1800s and it leads to the sight of a bunch of sailors hoisting and tossing around a bunch of packages on a ship getting ready to set sail for adventure
Two weeks ago a man in France was arrested for raping his daughter. She’d gone to her school counselor and then the police, but they needed “hard evidence.” So, she videotaped her next assault. Her father was eventually arrested. His attorney explained, “There was a period when he was unemployed and in the middle of a divorce. He insists that these acts did not stretch back further than three or four months. His daughter says longer. But everyone should be very careful in what they say.” Because, really, even despite her seeking help, her testimony, her bravery in setting up a webcam to film her father raping her, you really can’t believe what the girl says, can you?
Everyone “knows” this. Even children.
Three years ago, in fly-on-the-wall fashion of parent drivers everywhere, I listened while a 14-year-old girl in the back seat of my car described how angry she was that her parents had stopped allowing her to walk home alone just because a girl in her neighborhood “claimed she was raped.” When I asked her if there was any reason to think the girl’s story was not true, she said, “Girls lie about rape all the time.” She didn’t know the person, she just assumed she was lying…
No one says, “You can’t trust women,” but distrust them we do. College students surveyed revealed that they think up to 50% of their female peers lie when they accuse someone of rape, despite wide-scale evidence and multi-country studies that show the incident of false rape reports to be in the 2%-8% range, pretty much the same as false claims for other crimes. As late as 2003, people jokingly (wink, wink) referred to Philadelphia’s sex crimes unit as “the lying bitch unit.” If an 11-year-old girl told an adult that her father took out a Craigslist ad to find someone to beat and rape her while he watched, as recently actually occurred, what do you think the response would be? Would she need to provide a videotape after the fact?
It goes way beyond sexual assault as well. That’s just the most likely and obvious demonstration of “women are born to lie” myths. Women’s credibility is questioned in the workplace, in courts, by law enforcement, in doctors’ offices, and in our political system. People don’t trust women to be bosses, or pilots, or employees. Pakistan’s controversial Hudood Ordinance still requires a female rape victim to procure four male witnesses to her rape or risk prosecution for adultery. In August, a survey of managers in the United States revealed that they overwhelmingly distrust women who request flextime. It’s notable, of course, that women are trusted to be mothers—the largest pool of undervalued, unpaid, economically crucial labor.
“The belief that everyone would be ‘naturally thin’ if they didn’t ‘overeat’ is definitely supported by multiple economic actors who benefit from it: the diet foods industry (like Healthy Choice, owned by ConAgra), the diet medications industries (both pharmaceutical and ‘supplement’ companies), surgeons (who perform bariatric surgeries), plastic surgeons (who perform liposuction and lipidectomies), weight loss clinics and support programs (like Weight Watchers), and gyms. But I think that the major reason people don’t know about the junkiness of weight loss ‘science’ is that across our entire society, people have invested deeply in the ideology that thinness is a moral virtue. We stigmatize being fat so strongly that fat acceptance is seen as ‘immoral.’ And few people want to consider that they have been oppressing their family members, friends, or themselves…”—Dr. Cary Gabriel Costello (via lovethyfatness)
listen the secret to pulling anything off—be it red lipstick or shaving half your head or wearing something ridiculous—is to literally just fucking do the thing and immediately adopt an attitude of giving no fucks, even if you have to fake it
Remember that scene in Mean Girls when they cut Regina’s shirt and she just goes “oh well” and the next day everyone cuts their shirt the same. Yeah, confidence does that
So after much thinking…I think I have some gift ideas. I’m going to be looking for a fleece jacket for him to wear under his windbreaker so he doesn’t have to use the parka as often (since it’s not needed in TX) and I’m going to make the Mara amulet and vows, I’m going to attempt to make an ebony blade out of eva foam and do one other piece of art.
After a lot of planning and research this looks doable. If the blade comes out good I’ll find a display back or box and decorate it like in game. He thinks I’m thinking of doing a staff, because I was looking at a ton of them, so the blade will be a surprise.
maybe i’m a goddamn bleeding heart hippie liberal but i’m totally down with paying an extra .50 cents for a thing of fries if the person who makes me those fries doesn’t have to work 3 jobs just to survive.
Okay, today was brainstorming. Migraine is finally gone but Took forever so no shopping was done today. But I did come up with some artsy ideas for Nick’s gifts.
All are game related. We are both big into these things so makes sense.
One idea is a picture of Altas and P-Body, from Portal 2 co-op mode, holding hands. Above is “T-E-A-M-W-O-R-K” and below is “In union there is strength.” We had a blast playing co-op in that game and we also often tell each other how we feel stronger together. So, it’s a fun and sweet way to reflect that.
Another idea is crafting an amulet of Mara (from skyrim) out of polymer clay and painting it. Then mounting it along with the vows that go with the amulet. The amulet, in game, is used to find a spouse and then you go to the temple of mara and the vows are read. I thought it could be a cute, but as i write it out is sounds…weird?
I could also craft any of the other amulets from the game and give him that, mounted with the stat boosts it has. Or maybe craft a dagger from the game. Hmmmm Now my brain is all over this.
I could order one as well BUT I know I can make one for cheaper that would look just as good (since I can’t afford to buy one of the metal replicas)
Oh and one idea I will be doing is the Cave Johnson rant from Portal too. “…demand to see life’s manager…” that one. I was going to make it in a series of pictures with lemons in various states and the final pic being “…I’m gonna get my engineers to invent a combustible lemon that burns your house down!” with a lemon grenade. It’s a silly quote but has a good message behind it (you run your life, don’t take shit from anyone) and it would be fun to have it up in the house. I just have to figure out how to do it because it’s a typography piece and I’m not good with handwriting and I don’t want to print it….hmmmmmmmm
But I also have other ideas in case these fall through. But at least one should work
“Confidence is being able to say ‘Fuck you, I’m the shit’ without opening your mouth, say it with your walk, with your smile, say it with your entire being.”—Tati-Ana Mercedes (via masturbationdestination)
Last night as I was getting into bed I noticed I was beginning to tighten up. I was concerned that today I’d be in lots of pain.
But this morning there wasn’t pain, just soreness. No aching. Some tightness in my shoulders, chest, and quads but nothing that prevents me from moving around. This makes me super happy because it means I was able to stretch enough yesterday.
What I did wake up with is a migraine and I’m waiting on ibuprofen to kick in so I can try and boy shop.
“If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also”—
This specifically refers to a hand striking the side of a person’s face, tells quite a different story when placed in it’s proper historical context. In Jesus’s time, striking someone of a lower class ( a servant) with the back of the hand was used to assert authority and dominance. If the persecuted person “turned the other cheek,” the discipliner was faced with a dilemma. The left hand was used for unclean purposes, so a back-hand strike on the opposite cheek would not be performed. Another alternative would be a slap with the open hand as a challenge or to punch the person, but this was seen as a statement of equality. Thus, by turning the other cheek the persecuted was in effect putting an end to the behavior or if the slapping continued the person would lawfully be deemed equal and have to be released as a servant/slave.
1. Your job. Yes, even if you’re working something that other people condescendingly term “not a real job,” such as retail or service. If you have a job of any kind in this economy, you’ve already won.
2. Whether or not you have debt. If you managed to get out of your education debt-free, that doesn’t mean that your life is a financial walk in the park that you constantly have to be apologizing for. If you are in debt, it doesn’t mean you got a “worthless” degree and now deserve to be shamed for struggling to find work after you were convinced by your school that you were making a good decision.
3. The kind of food you enjoy eating, or why you enjoy eating. (No matter how “uncultured” or “boring” or “gross” someone else might deem your favorite food.)
4. Your decision to have children, or not have them, or to not be sure if you even want them.
5. Your dislike for marriage as an institution — and even if this one day changes, you don’t have to justify having grown as a person and moved into a new point of view. No one should be telling you “I told you so” over something as enormous as your decision to commit for life to another person.
6. Your sexuality, or your desire to experiment with it. You are allowed to have “phases” or “try things out” or be “confused,” and can take as much time as you want figuring it out.
7. Your gender presentation.
8. Your income level, and what you can and cannot afford. If you are having trouble keeping up with friends because you are not able to spend as much as them, there is no reason to risk financial ruin to try and keep up appearances.
9. Your body. The only person whom you need to talk to about with it is your doctor; everyone else can else can go kick rocks.
10. Whether or not you want to go out on a weekend night, or ten weekend nights in a row. The amount of time you spend in a bar or at a club does not directly correlate with how cool or worthy a person you are.
11. Your relationship status. If you’re single and happy, that’s great. If you’re in a relationship and happy, that’s great. If you’re either of those and not happy, you are more than allowed to be, and it’s no one’s business how you should “fix” it unless you ask them for their advice.
12. How many friends you have. One is enough. A hundred is enough. And there is no need to falsely upgrade acquaintances to “friend” status in your mind simply to fill out the ranks. A true friend is rare, and we don’t need to make it a competition for who has the most.
13. How much you drink when you go out, or if you drink at all, or why you choose not to drink if you do.
14. What kind of music you enjoy listening to.
15. What kind of an education you have or don’t have, or if you intend to go back and finish what you’ve started. If continuing your studies is something you want to do, good, but don’t be forced into saying that you want it just because it’s what people expect of you.
16. What you happen to be turned on by. If you like slash fiction, you like slash fiction. If you like people recording videos of themselves popping balloons, that’s awesome for you. It’s all good, and as long as you’re not hurting anyone, have at it.
17. Whether or not you know to cook, even if you’re a woman who “should” know how to do those things.
18. If you stay at home to raise your children, or if you hire someone to help you do so because you have a full-time career. Neither of those choices are more or less feminist, no matter what Elizabeth Wurtzel tells you.
19. How many people you have had sex with.
20. Whether or not you are a virgin, and whether or not you want to wait for marriage to lose said virginity.
21. Whether or not you believe in God, and what you think God actually is. (As long as you’re not imposing any of your beliefs on others, in which case we’d have a bit of a problem. But I trust that you’re cool and wouldn’t do that.)
22. Who you voted for and why. If you want to talk about it, you’re free to. But no one should ever make you feel like you have to tell them.
23. If you have sex on a first date, if you kiss on a first date, or if you won’t even hold hands on a first date. You’re allowed to do whatever you like when you’ve just met a new potential suitor.
24. Whether or not you choose to use dating websites.
25. Not knowing exactly what you want to be when you grow up, even if many people would already put you in the category of “grown up.” If you are considering going back to school, or changing careers, or moving, or starting a family, or doing charity work — it’s all good. And none of it has to be followed up with a longwinded explanation about why it’s a good idea and they should believe in you. If you need to justify what makes you happy to someone in your life, perhaps you should ask yourself why you even care about their opinion in the first place.
I feel so powerful!!! I pr-ed all my exercises.I also discovered that my best exercise is the seated cable row…I’m going to max the weight on the machine soon and then I don’t know what I’m going to do…
Squats: 75lb (5x5) Bench Press: 65lb (5x5) Cable Rows: 180lbs (suppose to be 5x5 but last set I went 8 because it didn’t feel hard enough but I didn’t want to up weight) Barbell Shrug: 65lb (3x8) Tricep extensions(cable rope overhead): 70lbs (3x8) Romanian Deads (I was suppose to do bench hyper-extensions BUT we don’t have a bench for that and I couldn’t think of a better sub): 75lbs (3x8) Cable Crunch: 70lbs (3x10)
I don’t hurt anywhere. I’m all sorts of shaky though. I can tell I moved lots of weights and it feels so good. I’m so pumped for all this!
atonalginger said:yes! I hated that too! There was this dude that harassed me to the point where I reported him to okc and yet he was always near the top of my list and it was so annoying! :-/
That sucks, dude. Except Jordan is my good friend that I find highly attractive who isn’t interested in me romantically at all so it basically just annoys me when I see his face in a sea of the douchebags I have to choose from because I know he’s not a douche already and then everyone else just looks worse and then I get pissed. So.
Yea, I can see that. OKC should really have a “don’t show me this person” feature. They could simply call it “not interested” and they disappear off our list. Nick and I once talked about that and he said it wouldn’t be hard to program, they just don’t want to implement it. *shrugs*Hopefully a another non-douche surfaces. Good hunting:)